Deferred Gratification and the Female Kind
One of the most common results of studies on people who are successful is that they have a penchant for deferred gratification. Deferred gratification is the ability of a person to trade current pain for future pleasure. If you are willing to study now for a test later or to spend your free time learning a new skill instead of partying you practice deferred gratification.
Research studies show that the most successful people are those who are able to deffer the gratification from their hard work for the longest time. Which makes sense, if you can work with the same zeal, day-after-day with no signs of progress, no reward, yet believe it will yield a reward further down the line, there is a good chance that the number of competitors you have will be few. Because if it was easy and rewarding, everyone would be doing it. If its hard, yet rewarding, far fewer people will attempt it and even less will push all the way to get the reward.
Keeping deferred gratification in mind and its high correlation with success in life. Let’s take an evolutionary perspective. When looking for a mate a male will look for child-bearing traits in a female and a female will look for provider characteristics. This is a simplified, evolutionary perspective but even with this base we can see that when it comes to deferred gratification we can see that after marriage a female does not get instant gratification, whereas the male does.
Over time the female’s child-bearing traits lessen and normally, the males provider characteristics become stronger (with experience a man will earn more and have lower testosterone levels which will result in him being less likely to run off with a younger better looking girl, etc.). This means that females come to expect deferred gratification in life and it can even be argued that evolution has naturally selected females which have a stronger tendency for deferring gratification because it will help the chances of the survival of their offspring.
Essentially, this means that women should be better able to deffer gratification than men. The evidence of this is visible in the fact that girls normally out-score boys on average in school, more women graduate with college degrees than men, a girl who enters college is more likely to finish than a guy, etc.
The implication for men is that in the cave-man era the strongest, most aggressive man was the alpha male who got the women and the resources. In modern society if you are a man with too much testosterone you are no longer the alpha male with the resources, rather it is the man with some feminine characteristics who will have the best chances of success. So, drink some alcohol and eat soy beans to increase your estrogen levels and achieve success.
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